*Originally created by Mega X.EXE, this topic didn’t get the chance to reach its full potential, and so I decided that this particular thread should be brought back to life. The only difference between this and the original thread is, instead of just giving a single person advice on dating, we can all discuss the subject of “love,” no matter if a single member is looking for advice or if all members would like to have general discussions with one another. :cool:
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I suppose since I brought this topic back, I’ll start by asking for everyone’s opinion about this situation:


Coming from a family that has tons of old fashioned values, I’ve always been told by my “old school” mother that it is never a good idea for a young lady to chase after a man romantically. The logic for this is that men like to be the pursuer, not the one being pursued-- when women go after a man, she kills all enjoyment for the him (and this is because in most cases, that particular woman who chases him isn’t really his preferred choice). I tend to think that my mother gives out excellent advice (I learnt most of what I know from her). Though I do listen to this bit of advice on relationships, I never follow it-- I always go after the man I want, and eventually, I always get him. Though I do get my man in the end, I really can’t say that my relationships were anywhere near perfect.

After saying that, allow me to pose this question to you all: Do you think it is okay for a lady to romantically pursue a guy? (To broaden this a bit, here are some things to think about: Has this situation ever happened to you? If you are male, would you prefer if a girl were to ask you out; for females, would you go after a male and tell him how you feel about him?)

I was wondering were that PM was going!:lol:

As for this situation, I love it! Even though I will follow a few girls to the end of the earth... I sure is fun to have 3 girls fighting behind your back on who\'s your lab partner. Not to metion...

I always use that as the element of \"jealousy\" when trying to score on my crush

Oh boy i really don\'t know much about love.

Hmm about that question:
I think everyone can pursue someone if he/she has real feelings about her/him. It is only the question will he/she accept? But please don\'t pursue anyone if he finds it anoying if he finds out...

I don\'t have anyone in my life and i don\'t expect one either that\'s because i\'m not really a type for it. I\'m just a hard working geek, nerd, the know it all, extreme gamer. When i was 4 i already became a nerd, i thought of many things in life, i learned a bit english when i was 6.

But if someone said that she likes me or maybe a date then i cannot speak and i\'ll problably have one of my deceases soon after that. But if i could speak i\'ll problably be dumped so i will never find such things.
And most people has really damaged my future.. I am still being teased and that is also a cause that i don\'t really feel any love from anyone..
My life got a little better when i learned a very good skill (hacking). I also am not really in contact with people or atleast where i\'m sitting now..

So love is\'nt a real option in my life and i\'ve already stopped thinking about it.. Until now.. I think i have to start thinking about this one again...

[Edited on 11-11-2002 by Sol-Badguy]

If you have any good info on how to over come a major case of shyness, lay it on me!

I had a girlfriend in first grade, and she used to chase me around all the time............she even gave me my first ( and so far, only) kiss on the lips.........She moved away, though.......I still think about her to this day..........:cry:

and, a second time in 4th grade, and this girl was my buddy, too..........we used to do everything together in school.........she, unfortunately, also moved away to a distant land...........I guess I don\'t have much love luck......

I suppose It\'s alright for a lady to chase after a man, just as long as she doen\'t try to, say, gag and bind the man in a chair and takes some dirty pictures so that they\'ll be together forever.......that, and as long as she isn\'t a ditz when she\'s doing it........:D

ProtoStar, I also have your problem. I can\'t give any sound advice, but I think you should stand up and say what you need to say before it\'s too late. (Boy, am I a Hypocrate! ) I made that mistake too many times............................

I am currently in love with a girl who will remain nameless, but I\'ve been after her since 3rd grade.........that\'s the only girl who will look at me and talk to me, except for another one who likes me too, I think........It looks like we have a love triangle, here people..........help me........

[Edited on 11-11-2002 by Phatman Dover]

As far as i\'m concerned...i could go the rest of my life with out a girl friend...i honestly don\'t care....nope....i\'ve never wanted a girlfriend.....i never want anyone to love me.....i..........i...........................i\'m so lonely...:cry:

Well, I used to be shy, too, and then I found out that all you need to do is get involved with more people. You should also try and be a rebel.

Well, shit. I do that already, and I am a rebel at times.........and I STILL can\'t gain the courage to tell her.......My legs wobble and I fall down everytime I try........

Don\'t worry, you won\'t have any problems unless she\'s popular. Just come out and tell her and then you\'ll have nothing to worry about.

eh........maybe I\'ll wait until I get my driver\'s liscence, because nobody (men) recognize her as something special, only me......:(

Then you\'ll be fine just tell her damn it!!!!!!!!!:madgo::madgo::madgo::mad::mad::mad:

Here\'s an easier way to go about things:

1. Be spontanious! Join in on peoples conversations. Soon enough you\'ll be so used to that, it will become second nature (IceMan.EXE\'s personal approval)

2. Join Drama Club! It helps you feel more confortable in front of people judging you, and helps you make friends ( IceMan.EXE\'s personal approval)

3. Become friends with all of her friends! Helps you relate to her, and her friends will always tell her you\'re such a nice guy. (IceMan.EXE\'s personal approval)

EDIT: WOW!! DO I REALLY HAVE 500 posts?!!:D

[Edited on 12-11-2002 by IceMan.EXE]

Damn! And I thought I had it bad?:conf:
Rule #1 HiGGy isn\'t really a geek, HiGGy got backbone on em. <<<Fought on the wrestling team a few times and kicked those Sons of [Censored] (_Y_)s.

Anyways, an old sage once said to slow you\'re brain down and let your mouth concentrate on what you\'re gonna say. I know because I have an occasional stuttering problem with spitting my words out from time to time. They all fall like a million rain drops falling from a blue sky, kissing your cares goodbye. They all fall like a million pieces, a tickertape parade high, now you\'re free to fly (Pete Furler.);D

[Edited on 12-11-2002 by Sea Monkey]

[quote]Originally posted by IceMan.EXE
Here\'s an easier way to go about things:

1. Be spontanious! Join in on peoples conversations. Soon enough you\'ll be so used to that, it will become second nature (IceMan.EXE\'s personal approval)

2. Join Drama Club! It helps you feel more confortable in front of people judging you, and helps you make friends ( IceMan.EXE\'s personal approval)

3. Become friends with all of her friends! Helps you relate to her, and her friends will always tell her you\'re such a nice guy. (IceMan.EXE\'s personal approval)

EDIT: WOW!! DO I REALLY HAVE 500 posts?!!:D

[Edited on 12-11-2002 by IceMan.EXE] [/quote]
1. Whenever I join a conversation, I \"Somehow\" annoy them.
2. Tried it, and they wouldn\'t let me.
3. Tried it, and yet I somehow annoyed them too.

Why does my life have to be torture?:cry:

Your life is torture so we feel better........your misery makes us realize how good we have it.........

I\'m joking, but you can always send an \"anonymous\" letter to her.....that usually works..

Hmm interesting problem you have Iceman.EXE...

Well if you could just tell her that it was just a dance or anything and that she should stop it because it is annoying.

Ok ok this happened to me before (but not in a dance she just looked at me and got my e-mail from my friends and just SPAMMED my way to hell) but this answer i gave did NOT go to well.....:( (i got a heavy beat up from her friends.

Anyway i just got scared then and blocked everything that i could find in her profile (my way of paying back the favour and you can see it includes hacking). That\'s one that i remember.. Luckly i did never see her again (problably very pissed or she thought it was a other \"friend\").

That happened to me before but it wasn\'t that long ago. It started last year and she knew some of my friends and sent letters through them (that\'s usealy my job for my friends). I didn\'t know her but didn\'t want to break her heart (and so she\'d stop annoying the hell out of me) so I said I\'d go out with her (big mistake there). Because of this it got worse.

Advice for stopping shyness:
Drink a shot of vodka, then you\'ll say something crazy like you fancy her.
I\'m in a crazy position right now.

Yeah, but does it HAVE to be a shot of vodka? that stuff is like gasoline...........can\'t stand it............

:lol:Funny! Maybe you could try smacking your head into a metal pole. It made me scream out who I was in love with!

I\'ve grown so tired of love that I decided to become a Jedi. Love does hurt!

Warning: if you\'re planning to love, take caution; it hurts! Somebody kicked me because i liked them.

[Edited on 13-11-2002 by Fred the met]

so, if they kicked you, you must\'ve gone around the world 5 times because you are a met...............

well, even though you are a jedi and you cannot love, what happens when you find the love of your life?

Fred: I can\'t love you. I\'m a jedi.

Woman: well, I never! *slap*

Fred: ow. that stings a bit....

Good carrer choice, Fred.......now if you could only post in Omega Monsters.......you damn met..... :rolleyes:

I currently am in love with a girl in grade 9 and I did go out with her for about 2 months. When she broke up with me ,(were still friends) I suddenly wanted her back what should I do. The downfall is she became friends with a group of guys and girls who I hate so I can barely get a chance to talk to her. Once again, what should I do?

Forget her and move on. If she won\'t even talk to you, then you know that she\'s a Grade-A bit<#. find someone else. Either that, or talk with her and say that you don\'t like her friends. Or make her jealous. That always works. I personally think you are way too young, and I\'m in Grade 9 myself......

Orbie: but WHY?

Phatman: I got my hand caught in the radiator for 12 years......

Lavos: ouch.....

Then again, you can just blackmail her, but you need some training.........:D

i\'m in love with a girl in house B.She knows i like her but,she seems to be looking at me somtimes when i pass her.
i write her notes.i think she likes me what do you think?anyone can Answer.