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I take it the \"do you have any love problems\" was not directed at me. Obvious answer.


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How To Ask A Girl Out On Date
You met her, you talked to her, you got her number and, so far, everything is going great. But now comes that awkward point, …

How To Ask A Girl Out For Date
If it is a girl you are really interested in your mind might be filled with doubts and insecurities :

What if she says no ?

Am I trying to move too fast ?

Maybe she thought we were just friends and she will be offended if I ask.

All of these fears, although natural and common, are dumb. If you want a date with this girl you have the right to ask her out. Don\'t allow your life to be ruled by doubt and insecurity.

So what are the best ways to ask a girl out ?
There are several cheesy techniques you can use to lower your chances of rejection (such as making a bet with a girl and the loser has to make them dinner) but these kinds of games are unnecessary. If you are straightforward, and don\'t beat around the bush about what you want, a girl will respect and admire your confidence.

Optimally, you would ask her in a face-to-face setting. However, if that is not possible, either because the opportunity won\'t present itself or because you aren\'t confident enough, your best alternative would be over the phone.

Avoid, at all costs, asking through email or any other written medium (Instant Messenger, a note, etc.). Not only do these methods scream \"CHICKEN!\" they also leave behind a paper trail that may or may not come back to haunt you.

One way to avoid looking like an idiot is to have something in mind to say for these three possible reactions to your question so you won\'t be caught off guard :

If she says \"yes\"

Have a plan in mind; know your schedule and have an idea to suggest.

If she says \"no\"

Don\'t act shocked or offended. Just be like, \"Alright.\" Then carry on the conversation as if you never asked. Be friendly and polite. Too often guys take a \"no\" personally and get ticked off. Girls don\'t admire or respect a negative reaction. The fact that you were able to brush off her rejection so easily may actually raise her interest.

If she says \"some other time\"

Have a plan B in case she is busy. If she still acts like she has too much to do it\'s probably because she\'s not interested and doesn\'t want to hurt your feelings. Accept it as a rejection and move on.

Of course, you go into it expecting her to say \"yes\" but it\'s, as with most things in life, it\'s important to be prepared for the worst.

Tips on how to ask a girl out
The real key to getting women to say \"yes\" when you ask for the date IS TO MAKE SURE THAT THEY ARE ATTRACTED TO YOU.

If a woman is attracted to you then why wouldn\'t she want to go out on a date with you ? It makes sense but most guys don\'t think of it that way... they miss the point and focus on \"how to ask\" rather than focusing on raising her attraction.

If you raise her attraction then it won\'t really matter how you ask... she\'s going to say yes. Brian Caniglia has spent the last 7 years researching exactly how to make women attracted to you. He compiled all of his techniques for attracting women into a book called The DateSTACKER Program.


Google is helpful indeed...

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:lol:


Google...

You\'re still thinking about that girl aren\'t you Mega X? If you still wanna go out with that girl, just ask her and save yourself the stress!

Or maybe you don\'t look at it that way, maybe you look at it as a life or death situation, like a once in a life time oppurtunity.

You could at least tell her how you feel. If she doesn\'t respect that then, forget about her. You don\'t want to go out with someone who\'s gonna be like that anyways.


....I hope I\'m somewhere on the right track. :rolleyes:

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Indeed, good sir, I shall take your advice, as you should yourself. Had I known that all of that was from Google, I probably would not have posted here. Also, and this is a major long shot, Is any of your names Richard Krenz? It would be perfectly fitting that my enemy would just happen to be one of the regulars on the boards. And MegaX.exe, I wish you the best of luck.:D


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[font=Trebuchet MS]Of course you\'ll be ready by then Mega.

Oops, forgot to mention \"yeah right\". XD[/font]

[Edited on 20-6-2004 by GT Onizuka]

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MAN I make one hell of a Jerry Springer.


Windy! Windy!:lol:

I aggree, just try to talk to her more and eventually ask her out. It would seem odd if someone she really doesnt know personally came up and asked her out.

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That\'s pretty much like standing in the middle of the hall, holding a sign with her name on it and screaming LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE MEEEEEEEEE!!!

Oh dear, the mental images...


Oh dear, the flash backs...


EDIT: Made flashbacks two words so it would be at least five letters for you Windrider...

[Edited on 21-6-2004 by Gutter Mouth]

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Now for some Deep Thoughts...with your host, Windrider.

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Thank you for all your help, but...I\'m not brave enough. That and I don\'t know her phone number. That wouldn\'t change much if I did.


So, you\'re giving up is what you\'re saying? Or are you merely letting it go? And there is a difference.

I think that if you feel a certain way, it should be shared and uncovered, not restrianed and locked away.

Tell me Mega X.exe, or at least tell yourself, what is the stronger feeling to you, or what gets the best of you:

a) That girl and the feelings you have for her.

or

b) Your lack of confidence, and the fact that you\'ve come to the conclusion that their is no alternative for it\'s sake.



Do you even have to think twice that you want to go out with this girl?

Do you have to think twice about putting yourself down and make it look like you\'re not good enough for the matter?



It\'s your decision, your feelings, you decide what\'s for the best.

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Well, I wanted to avoid telling you the sure-fire way to get a girl Mega X.exe, but it appears that it\'s necessary. Ready?

All you have to do is tell her that you know some guy known as Necro over the internet. If she\'s knows anything about anything, she\'ll be all over you within seconds based on your association to me!

Seriously though, if you can\'t feel like you can ask her, maybe you should just try to forget about it and get over her. It doesn\'t look like you\'re really ready to be in a relationship like you desire, and you should work on helping yourself with your other issues first. You won\'t be much good to another if you can\'t be much good to yourself.


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Thank you for all your help, but...I\'m not brave enough. That and I don\'t know her phone number. That wouldn\'t change much if I did.


So, you\'re giving up is what you\'re saying? Or are you merely letting it go? And there is a difference.

I think that if you feel a certain way, it should be shared and uncovered, not restrianed and locked away.

Tell me Mega X.exe, or at least tell yourself, what is the stronger feeling to you, or what gets the best of you:

a) That girl and the feelings you have for her.

or

b) Your lack of confidence, and the fact that you\'ve come to the conclusion that their is no alternative for it\'s sake.



Do you even have to think twice that you want to go out with this girl?

Do you have to think twice about putting yourself down and make it look like you\'re not good enough for the matter?



It\'s your decision, your feelings, you decide what\'s for the best.



I\'m doing what\'s best.

c) What\'s better for her well-being. That means everything.

I want to go out with her, but is it a good thing or a bad thing for her?

I\'m not sure exactly what you mean in that sentence.

I\'m sure I know what\'s for the best. That\'s the descision I\'ve made.

I\'m going to have to let it go.


What I meant was do you want to go out with her or not?

YOU want to go out with her but you feel she doesn\'t feel the same about you. How do you know she\'s not thinking the same thing?

Don\'t sweat it though, girls get easier to talk to when their older anyways. You\'re 13 right? I take it she\'s around the same age. Maybe you should just wait it out, see what happens later. I don\'t mean wait until you\'re both old and grey but maybe in a year or so, things will change. You said she\'s not moving so, that\'s a bonus.

However, you\'re probably thinking \"What if she finds someone else in that time?\" Well, you said it yourself, as long as you feel she is happy, then it doesn\'t really matter does it? Just don\'t be a sucker Mega X.exe. Don\'t wait for her to break up with the guy IF she even finds one.

Just wait and see what happens...or let it go.

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I\'ll just have to wait and see then.

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All you have to do is tell her that you know some guy known as Necro over the internet. If she\'s knows anything about anything, she\'ll be all over you within seconds based on your association to me!


Wow.... Here\'s hoping I can get a harem when I tell them I\'m Necro\'s best friend..

Problem is, they\'ll just ask about Necro all the time and never put out.. Ah, I guess I deserve it.

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Hey sorry I just kind of skipped to the end, but is there any GOOD website to help with extreme relationship problem, like moving on, holding on to the past and when to let go???Im seriously messed up and need help, short of my 3 friends who have never been in a serious relationship all I have is my ex and well you guys..... Thanx


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Ok, Im in a bit of a situation....

The girl I have been in love with for years is still in love with my best friend. However, the stupid person that he is, he doesnt seem to jump on the opportunity. One of his reasons is that he knows I love her. Ive told him to ask her out, but he refused. Now this is getting in my way of asking her out. Im not sure whether this is my problem or hers. Anyone got any wise words for me?

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Look obviously your friend has no interest in this girl, and cares more about your friendship with him than some girl. I\'ve always believed \"It never hurts to ask\" and \"It doesnt hurt to try\" Ive also been told by a new very good friend of mine words to live by \"Dont force it, feel it\"
So if it feels right to ask her out then do it, but dont keep encouraging your friend as he will only see that your love for this girl has deminished, and what would that exactly get you? Your friend dating the girl he refused for YOU.After that you would have no right getting pissed at him.
So in essence of what Im try to say, like Nike, Just do it
[spoiler] Starsky in Disguise\"Do It,Do it, Do it\"


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Hey, I\'ve got a stupid question: does the girl you\'re in love with know how you feel? This can make a huge difference; she can\'t very well choose between your friend and you if she doesn\'t know that your an option! first thing you should do, is ask your friend outright if he ever plans to actually ask her out. If he gives that sort of automatic defensive \"yeah!\", ask him when he plans to do it, and don\'t give in until he tells you. This is helpful in two ways. first, it let\'s you know for sure that he\'s not going to just sort of hang onto her until he \"feels like it\", and second you\'ll make him question whether what he\'s doing is right for everyone involved. Then, make sure that he\'s not lying to get you off his back. (yes, this sounds distrustful and harsh, but it also proves you\'re dead serious about this, too) or, if he says no, just let things play themselves out before you do anything else. Wait for the fights, the arguements, all that stuff to wear away. (if your friend can do this stuff with dignity, he is a true man) Then comfort the girl, wait a while, become her friend, and then ask her on a date. (the first relationship is between friends, not between lovers).

I\'m probably so freakin\' wrong it\'s not funny, and wait for someone else to confirm this statement before you follow my advice. but then I\'m a guy, so I\'m obligated to deny it and insist I\'m right because of that whole testosterone-driven macho ego thing...


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I am in love with her, and she knows that. I tried to get my friend to ask her out, and he said he couldnt do that to me. I told him I was only telling him because I love her. She knows exactly how I feel. Now, even though she knows he has no feelings for her, she still refuses to start a relationship with anyone else. This is my problem. I have tried to ask her out, but she says she still loves him. I am becoming worried because this has become her obsession.

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... but she also liked me for a time then.


Sounds alot like something any girl would do. Well, most of em. Damn flirty little slu..*ahem!*

My ex girlfriend was the same way. Though she was going out with me, you could tell she was hitting on other guys. That\'s not me saying that out of jealousy, but you could just tell by the way she would act. Girls think their always right, no matter what, that\'s something I\'ve learnt in the whole experience. It\'s very stupid.

So Nayus, can you honestly say you really love this girl? Because she sounds more like a player to me. Not that it means she actually is one, but that\'s what it sounds like to me. You may like her, but don\'t you think you could find someone else better? No matter what happens though don\'t let her tell you what to do and don\'t let her play you around. You are just as important as she is to you, remember that.

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Nayus, dude, I was in a relationship when I was 14!! And believe you me the aftermath of a serious relationship at that age really f***ed me up.I thought I was in love but it turned out to be fake. I know we all want to find that special one as soon as possible and if neither of the other 2 people will bugde you should make a stand. If Polly Prissy Pants still wants your Lassie like friend than theres nothing you can really do. Take it from me, go see some other girls and see if she is still someone your in love with. Also by seeing other girls she might want you, girls want what they see other girls have. Thats why if ever notice more girls hit on guys when they have a girlfriend as apposed to the guy who doesnt. So in the least amount of words possible:
Make her jealous, move on, live life!!


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Hmmmm.... You see, I already decided to move on, and now Im looking for a girlfriend at school. Problem is, no matter what, Im still going to love her. It really is becoming obsessive, and Im really worried about her. Every time she seems about to let go, she goes right back where she started. I went through the same thing and the only way I got over her was to just give up. I dont know how long it will take her though. I know she still likes me, but she is in love with him right now. I guess I just have to wait it out, for her sake.

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That sounds like the best thing for you right now. Just wait it out. But don\'t hesitate to scope other babes out. Don\'t think this girl is \'the one\'.

I know what you mean man, it hurts to let go of the one you have feelings for. It might not seems like it now, by time heals...mostly everything. When I broke up with my girlfriend, that didn\'t stop me from thinking about her. I worried about her alot, but then I just decided to let go of her. See, I had a pretty good reason to let her go, but for you and your situation, it\'s different. I mean, at least you didn\'t actually go out with her and spend a bunch of your time and money. :P You can still let go. Remember, one day at a time....one day at a time.

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That was my problem, I was obsessed with this girl that I loved (my ex) and well its hard because everything you see reminds you of her. I have been searching like Searchman for another girl to call my own and well every girl I meet I compare to my ex and thats wrong....*getting off subject* Well try to let go, thats the easiest yet hardest thing to do, so try it Dartanian...(lol) Just don\'t give up on yourself


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The problem with young love is this.

Everybody tells you that if you meet somebody when your young, and fall in love with them, then it\'s not real love, because your a stupid kid waiting for his balls to drop, and that means that your love is a lie. (Long live the run on sentance)

The problem with that is that it is not always true. Being young does not mean that you can not find your true love. In reality, your best choice might be somebody you knew when you where seven years old, and you just never knew it. Or, your \"Miss Right\" may not come along into your realm of awareness until your some 80 years old.

So, do we dismiss the possibility of true love, due only to the age factor? Yes, sad as it is, because the older you grow, the more determined you become that you where stupid when you where younger. It\'s one of those justifying your age things. But you also believe that people as old as you where, must also be stupid and ignorant. This is a horrible falseness that must be avoided at all cost.

The girl you speak of may be the only one in the world for you. The infinite problem, however, is that you can never be sure of that. Goes the other way too. She may be the worst but we will never know that either. My best advice?

Never listen to people like me, because I have the same damn problems, and I can\'t work out mine either.:P

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[Edited on 7-8-2004 by BlueSilver]


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To drive the whole age point in further. Watch Boy meets World.

The Corey Topanga thing is a perfect example.


It\'s also a TV show.:lol:

Oh well, at least you agree with me...Kudos for unison!


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